Sunday, July 6, 2008

Mars Mistakenly Communicating To Venus

When guys are not aware of their words or actions-they send large negative messages to women. When initially getting to know a woman, men can go on and on "ad nauseum" about either them self or about their life theories. Woman prefer men to be attracted to them for who they are AND to demonstrate an obvious interest in her. Men-understand that because you may have a lot of knowledge and experience about things, places, accomplishments etc, that doesn't really impress her or create an attraction between she and you. This will be an immediate turn off. Women need to share who they are with you expecting a similar dialogue from you to her. She is looking to gain a sense of who and what you are about, while showing her your ability to demonstrate how you relate to her. Being in conversation with a woman, when she displays any negative feelings about someone or a situation, she is not to be judged as"hard to please" nor does she need input on what to do to advise her on a solution. Men are into fixing things and dilemmas however women think out loud to just share themselves. We need to share equally with one another all sides of us because that is what forms the bond of a relationship. Men-take the focus off what you want or desire and you will learn "about" and "see" her in a different light. Never cease to extend compliments to a woman. A continuous flow of them, not matter what length of time you have been together, will always transmit your love, appreciation and interest in her. This helps to fuel the attraction she will have toward you. Never become complacent thinking your relationship can be sustained by and live off the interest of your initial physical/(?)emotional investment. If you believe you have won her over and you can just coast along, assuming she knows that you care, you are in for a very rude awakening. Not a good plan. Always be aware of what she is interested in while displaying your interest in her. That will heighten the attraction you will both have for one another, while strengthening and growing the relationship together. Be well and happy relating!!!!!!!

*****The last part of this series will show how apologies are made on Mars and Venus.*******

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