Monday, October 11, 2010

Men--How to Forgive and Apologize

There are as many differences between the sexes that we can imagine, however the importance of understanding both is crucial to the happiness of all.We never are going to fully know the inner workings of a woman's mind yet we need to live our life like we do.There are things we can do to begin a process of shifting our thoughts to reflect a more open, understanding mindset. A great way to demonstrate this is to learn how to truly forgive and to apologize. I am sure a automatic knee jerk reaction to this is, " sure, bet on it-can't wait". Well-we can continue on our merry way looking to "be right" OR we can choose to be happy.Your choice. When someone has to be right all of the time that means someone else has to be wrong. How do you think that feels always for them? Forgiving and apologizing in a sincere way is the highest form of respect you can give someone. It starts with you first though to have a genuine, gracious, open and honest heart. Pure love is able to be released to others which I believe is our greatest ability to create joy peace and happiness.Forgiving is totally releasing any emotion or future attitude toward another human being in regards to what was said or done. To truly do this for another gives you the best oppoprtunity to be forgiven when it becomes your turn. When you teach people how to treat you, they sense a feeling of trust, acceptance and support. When it comes to apologizing, learn the art of doing this which means "no explanations". If indeed you were illmannered, insensitive, abusive, etc, be man enough to say it, own it and ackowledge just what you did. Too many times men give these watered down excuses, reasons and explanations, hoping the other person will buy one of them to make it go away. That approach will never validate the other person in regards to the way they were made to feel. Men may not worry about this because usually a quick apology between men will do, however that is not what this is all about. Get this--if you are unwilling to be explicit with your mistakes and express this to a woman, she will keep the discussion going until you do. It just is extremely different for them. This is a law of life and definitely non-negotiable.These are two subjects we could go on and on with, I realize that, however if this is needed in your relationship or your life I would be glad to be of assistance. Happy trails!!

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